The Gravity of Ego

Our ego has gravity; it can pull and hold us to maintain certain behaviors. The longer we have behaved a certain way, the stronger the pull of that behavior.

Our behaviors are based on our beliefs. Often, our beliefs are rooted in trauma; they also arise from what we learn from society. These beliefs are deeply embedded in our psyche.

The gravity of ego is most apparent when we are trying to embody a new way of being. As we aim to change something about ourselves, we somehow still end up reacting as we did before—like our old self is still our default attitude. Simply put, it is challenging to become a better version of ourselves. Also, because of our effort to try and act in a new way, we are keenly aware when we fail at our attempt. We then judge ourselves for not healing and changing fast enough.

In the practice of Unification, we ground ego to our Divine Self consciousness to support our effort at changing our beliefs and behaviors. Here, the gravity of ego is no match for the strength of God.

By bringing our Divine Self forward, we anchor our ego to the light and wisdom of God which has the effect of making us stronger and more resolute. It also brings our concerns to the present which helps to see the situation more clearly, and with less attachment and judgement. In contrast, when the solitary ego tries to improve itself, it has the tendency to waiver—being ungrounded, the ego cannot stand firm. The ego is likely to revert back to its old existence because it is trained to measure its circumstances by the results of its past.

In unifying with our God consciousness, we are strengthened, emboldened, and made capable to hold our transformations. In this way, the gravity of ego is lessened and we feel the freedom to change.

The gravity of ego is a teaching tool. It appears to show us where we need to put our attention. It is there to remind us of our yet unhealed wounds. It is also a marker of our humanity and thus should not be overlooked. Instead, when the gravity of ego pulls you in, surrender, and ask God, as your Divine Self consciousness, “What can I do to make peace with this? How can I love, forgive, and accept myself as I am?” Then, allow yourself to be guided by God.

Just as the gravity of the earth is essential, the gravity of ego is important. When the pull to be our old self makes an appearance, it is a chance to practice self-compassion. It is a moment to become more present. It is a pathway to know ourselves and commune with God.

May we see with eyes to see. 🌹

With love,


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It’s the Action that Counts

Most are familiar with the saying, “it’s the thought that counts,” which means that the intention behind the act was good, but the execution or outcome may have fallen short of expectation. In such cases, we show our understanding by acknowledging the act was well meaning.

When I suggest that it is the action that counts, I’m speaking of our ability to course correct—that we can fulfill our good intentions and make amends when we fall short.

In the last weeks of 2019, this notion has become a running theme for me and perhaps others. Generally, this time has us reflecting on the past year, and many can feel like they didn’t do what they intended, desired, and/or needed to accomplish. To this, I propose we can right our actions.

As we look back on our well meaning intentions, we may judge ourselves for missing the target, but I recommend that instead of judgement, we atone. In the practice of Unification, atonement is to ask for forgiveness from God, our Divine Self consciousness. Here, through our self-forgiveness we grow in compassion and love. In our atonement, we see that we are free to rise, fall, and rise again without ever losing our wholeness or worthiness. The act of atonement is for the benefit of ego because God never judges, and so there is nothing to forgive. Simply put, judgement is the domain of ego.

We can always atone for the reasons we go off course, forgiving and loving ourselves in the process. Then, we can make corrections to our actions supporting our highest good. In the path of Unification, we learn from the Light bodies that, “we came here for the music,” our life experiences, as well as to evolve as Divine beings. To that end, our intentions and actions fulfill our desire for growth.

May we see with eyes to see. 🌹

With love,


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Finding Freedom in the Breath

Through the breath we can find more life freedom. By noticing our breath we can feel centered and become more present. Here, we can choose to go deeper and connect with our Divine Self consciousness to feel the love, support, and guidance of God. No matter where we are, the breath can help us experience groundedness and spaciousness.

We can experience different levels of freedom and this is due to our beliefs. It is also our beliefs that influence how we perceive reality. Though our beliefs may be different, each of us, through our own breath, can alter, and in most cases make better, our individual situations. By paying attention to our breath at any given time, we can change how we view and act in that moment. This allows us the freedom to respond in a new way rather than reacting from conditioned beliefs.

Taking the time to breathe during certain circumstances can give you the clarity to see things differently, the emotional bandwidth to experience the moment fully, and to behave in a way that supports your highest good: your growth.

In the time and space that occurs when we bring our awareness to our breath, we give ourselves a pause—a temporary stop where we collect ourselves. We set ourselves to right and come back to our heart and to the core of who we are. In the practice of Unification, to choose to have this emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual pause is the behavior of the grounded ego.

Through the breath, we turn our focus inward. We feel the breath process in the body. We sense the rise and fall of our chest and stomach. As we breathe deeply, the body relaxes, our shoulders lower, tension leaves the face and neck, and we may release a deep and relieving sigh. After a few more breaths, we can notice a tempering of our mental and emotional state. Our thoughts settle down, and our emotions become more balanced. Attuned to the body by our breath, we can connect to our heart, which is the pathway to God and our Divine Self consciousness.

Connected to our God consciousness, we can sense our freedom. Centered and grounded, we are present. In this state, we have the ability to pause and respond to all circumstances in a mindful way.

It is through our Divine awareness that we are able to release the judgments, conditioning, and illusions that hold us to a way of life where we think we are lacking in freedom. Many times, for the ungrounded ego, its sense of freedom is obscured by its thoughts of the past and future. Ego is “stuck” as it were in its mental time-traveling ways and it is unaware of the freedom it possesses in the present.

This freedom of which I speak is your spiritual freedom. It is your belief in your spiritual freedom that will set you free from the shackles that bind you, be they physical, mental, or emotional. No matter the reality in which you exist, you are spiritually free because you are of God and thus, are infinite. To truly understand and accept this Truth is a game changer.

Seeker, acknowledge your sacred breath, and find freedom within. 🌹

With love,


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The Practice of Relaxing (into)

Have you ever been told to “relax” by someone?

Did this actually make you relax?

In general, I imagine it did not. But, I’ve come to understand, that when you tell yourself, to relax, the outcome is quite different—it is relieving and empowering.

I’ve been experimenting lately with the idea of “relaxing into” things, as opposed to approaching situations with apprehension, tension, or resistance. Thus, this notion of “relax” is a type of surrender.

In the practice of Unification, we are familiar with our choice to surrender or resist our life situations. Grounded to our Divine Self consciousness, we mainly elect to surrender because doing so begets our healing and change in circumstance. In contrast, resistance often has us repeating similar life stories of our past.

For the most part, we are called to surrender to the conditions of our life that cause us pain. We surrender to our traumas, bad memories, social conditioning, and so on, to change the limiting beliefs we learned from those experiences and to replace them with new beliefs that support our growth and well-being. In Unification, surrendering is a pathway to freedom, knowing ourselves better, and a gateway to experience God. In the same way, I’m saying we can “relax into” certain aspects of our lives and receive the same benefits of sovereignty and spiritual fulfillment.

The practice is this: relax, respond, and release.

  • Relax into the present, whatever the case may be. Relaxing into the situation eases you to accept what is. It relieves tension in the body and lowers barriers of resistance. Consciously tell yourself to relax, breathing into the process; allow your energy and body to settle gently.
  • Next, respond to your present, whatever the case may be. Ground to your Divine Self consciousness and engage with what is in front of you, responding from a place of centeredness. In this way, your response always leads to your highest good, which is your personal growth.
  • Lastly, release the situation, whatever the case may be. Release defining yourself by it. Release any judgement you may have around it. And, release attachment to the outcome of your response.

Find that this practice of “relax, respond, and release” creates more acceptance, ease, and contentment in your life. With less resistance to what is, you can co-create what can come. With detachment to the outcome—you are liberated from self expectations, limitations, and judgements.

Through this practice of relaxing into your present, you dismantle past conditioning—relaxed, you simply behave differently. By responding from a grounded state, you can act in a different way that manifests new possibilities. By releasing all attachments, you free yourself to be in harmony with creation—God’s expanding consciousness.

May we see with eyes to see. 🌹

With love,


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Ecstatic Living

In the path of Unification, ecstatic living is a state of existence where you are present, engaged with passion, and free of attachment at the same time; there is a sense of joy, wonder, and excitement about life. In ecstatic living, you are in harmony with what is.

Presence, passion, and non-attachment are the keys to ecstatic living.

Presence is a choice. Your ego chooses to be in the now, rather than in the past or future. In truth, there is only the present and mental time-travel is an illusion. When you’re attached to your thoughts about the past or future, it can be all-consuming. Here, you are blind to the present.

The answer to freeing yourself from mental time-travel is to surrender to what concerns you in the present. This is done by bringing your Divine awareness forward. Grounded to your Divine Self consciousness, you can see your attachments, surrender to situations, heal wounds, change beliefs, and grow into an evolved way of being where you exist in the present.

Passion is the result of surrendering to our desires and enthusiasm—we become passionate about life. In Unification, we are not attached to our desires; we understand they are teaching tools. Desire leads to knowing ourselves better and is a pathway to personal and spiritual growth.

Our desires help us explore the human journey in order to experience what is possible. How we relate to our desires, whether we surrender or resist them, illuminates how we want to learn from life. For example, if you believe desires are “good” or “bad,” then that’s how you’re choosing to learn through life. There is no wrong or right way to be with your desires; it is your choice how you want to grow.

In ecstatic living, you nurture the qualities of curiosity, wonder, and excitement. You are intrigued by what you don’t know. What is unknown is not feared because you are grounded in your wholeness. You are not defined by what is—you only experience it. This wisdom frees you from any fears that you will be destroyed in some way by what appears. In the path of Unification, you are part of creation, the expanding consciousness of God. There is nothing that can disrupt your connection or completeness. And, it is your choice to live in this way.

Non-attachment is also a choice, but it is more accessible as an outcome of self-work. When you address the root causes of why you are attached to certain thoughts, events, ways of being, and conditioning, you free yourself from these attachments. When you heal the wounds that prevent you from remembering your wholeness and the ideas that keep you separate from God, you become unattached to these things. When you realize you are neither your ego or body and are not defined by any human condition—you will be free.

Ecstatic living transpires when the elements of water, ether, earth, air, and fire are balanced. Moreover, it is when your fire element is stoked, contained, and vibrant. Your fire element is nurtured when you follow your desires. It is held together when you are guided by your Divine Self consciousness. It shines bright when you feel free to be.

May we see with eyes to see.🌹

With love,


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